pil want to all meet up with great aunt every school holiday

[thegardener]

Every school holiday pil say dh's aunty (she's a teacher)is coming over and would we like to go over to them/they come to us. obviously with half term approaching i know they will ask, but as nice as it is to keep in touch with relatives i don't want to get into a rut of it being every school holiday.
This year we have managed to see her a few times (feb & summer - got out of Easter said we were busy)and will see her at xmas aswell.
Pil don't like it when we say we're busy so it makes it really difficult.

Does anyone else have family like this and how do you handle it?

She's got her own life to lead with her family now. How many obligations does she have to meet?

It isn't that she resents spending time with older relatives (massive judgement by you there), it's that she actually would like some time by herself with her little family unit. I think that's fair enough. \

It's not really nice of you to make her feel mean by calliing her selfish by prioritising herself once in a while.

Why do mothers have to sacrifice everything for everyone else?

Hi Skidoodle.

I think you need to reread the original post. The posts you have made seem rather unempathetic and judgemental . If you had read further you would see that TG has difficult relations with her PIL and her aunt is of the same mould.

Perhaps you could discuss your issues elsewhere rather than air them on this thread, your comments seem destructive rather than constructive.

Thanks very much

allyx