what's the longest you've waited to first sleep with someone in a relationship?

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mine was 4 weeks. i'm quite proud of that personally

two months with dh [proud emoticon].

but then i lived in manchester and he lived in cambridge, so we only had about 4 dates in that time .

i once went with a bloke for 18mths and we did everything else but the main deed not sure why that was, but i was only 14
on the other hand, i met a bloke in a bar once and within 30mins we were at it round the back of the bar. classy

god i don't know, not long

4 months, dh, but then there's only ever been him. Today I'm not sure which spin to put on it- hopelessly romantic or no other bugger would come close enough?

5months from first starting dating properly, but could day it was a year really as we kept pissing about way way before that. he is now my dh lol.

second date with DH. It was obvious he was the one from the first date.

about 6 weeks. i was 13 and it was my first boyfriend.

about 1 month. with dp.
this makes me feel better... for more reassurance i might start a thread about how chequered peoples pasts have really been!

its a bti vicotrian the waiting thing isnt it really

i mean unless oyu sleep with 20 men a week its ireelvant surely?

i bet men never see it as a GOOD hting to wait

2 or 3 months with my first proper boyfriend

cod i agree, but i think we are all given the impression that men think you are a bit of a slapper if you sleep with them quickly and then don't view you as a real perrson, or something like that.

i think its crap tbh, ime there is something to be said foro not jumping into bed too soon but more from self-protection pov - in terms of what a guy thinks, surely if he likes you then he likes you regardless, and if he doesnt then he doesnt regardless, only difference is they are more likely to sleep with you when they dont really like you than NOT sleep with you of they do, iyswim.

am i hijacking? i hope not

A few hours.

same as Harrisey, waited until we were married, together over 4.5 years until we married

Well my major relationship before DH, it never happened as he didn't believe in sex before marriage and it took me well over a year to realise that he was never going to marry me

DH....about 2 days It just seemed right, I was a bit of a waiter normally.

Ha ha ha! I just knew that if I clicked on this thread, Expat would say ... a few hours

Same for me, I'm afraid. I don't think I ever waited for a second date. I'm not a wining/dining kind of gal ... I like to cut to the chase!

10 weeks in first ever sexual relationship - I was 17
About 3 hours with DH {grin}

2 days thought best not to wait to long because didn't want to be dissapointed and hung around for nothing lol!!

First bf ever, think it was about 4 wks - and with Dh it was about 3 days because he made me wait.

6 weeks. With my current partner.

During my fanatical evangelical Christian phase I went out with and subsequently got engaged to a bloke, we were going out for at least a year. No nookie, not even a boob fondle. I prayed a lot.

Then I realised he was a fraek. And fundamentalist Christianity wasn't really for me.

So I ran off to Australia and shagged a US Marine.

From one extreme to the other.

oo, I find in rl that I do like people who have been fanatical evangelical Christians at some point and then got over it.

I know someone who, aged 17, would pray in her attic and cry for the little baby Jesus

when i was 16 i started seeing this guy who was 23 and i put a bet on with my friend that i could make him wait 6 months before i slept with him and he would still be interested
and i did i won £50 of my friend!

Don't mock pointy. A memory that makes me sit bolt upright in bed and shout

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

was a dinner party where after food we sat round in the sitting room and ex fiance got out his guitar and we had an impromtu sing along to Christian rock session. I went into the kitchen and made some improptu maracas with cofee jars and split peas.