How can i spice up my sex life? Approach with caution!!!

[sweetcherrypie]

It's ok but it could be better. I think i would be embarressed to be well saucy and sexy. I know everybody is different but any tips anyway?

double for me!

I take it everyone is out having great sex then?!

What kind of tips are you looking for?

get a rampant rabbit kitsandbits is selling them

I don't know really. more to me!

There is loads of suggestions to make but it depends how prudish you are. There is no point in doing anything that you feel really stupid doing. off top of my head:

Mutual masterbation
Tying each other up? Blindfolding?
Sex other than int he bedroom

What type of person are you?

Quiet and shy. I am not shy around dp now but in the bedroom i feel i am not as open (no pun intended) as i could be after 2yrs of being with him. I thought i would have been less shy by now with him.

Hmmm, maybe I am not the best person to be giving advice then cos I am TOTALLY open when it comes to sex (possibly TOO much)!

A bit of enthusiasim counts for a lot more than people give it credit.
Maybe just some saucyish underwear that you can leave on till the very last and some gentle teasing?!
Just really feeling more saucier and confident in yourself without resorting to bondage etc....
(not that i have a problem with bondage )

have a bath together and explore, that's what i did with david (beckham), ...allegedly

Read some norty fiction. Don't bother with any How To Spice Up Your Relationship books as they are nearly all ghastly condesecending rubbish with identical advice about leaving your knickers at home. Good stuff to look out for: Black Lace novels (especially Emma Holly or Portia Da Costa), Scarlet magazine (available in Tescos I believe), Desire magazine, Forum magazine (though that might be a bit full on if you;re the shy type). Read a few things in different styles, see what makes you go 'mmm' and then consider sharing your reading with your DH and seeing what he thinks

Ditto erotic fiction. Get a couple of inobtrusive sex toys (little vibrating rings etc - Boots sell them! Silk scarves for blindfolds) they're not super saucy but gives you something to giggle about

we have the best sex when we have spent ages cuddling kissing touching i am quite shy but sex anywhere other than on the bed spices things up a bit.
sneak and pounce when he not expecting it

we have the best sex when we have spent ages cuddling kissing touching i am quite shy but sex anywhere other than on the bed spices things up a bit.
sneak and pounce when he not expecting it

opps laptop playing up

Try different textures etc. Blindfold each other (not at the same time...that could get silly!) and stroke each other with feathers, velvet, fingers, oils etc. It's not too full on or embarrassing to suggest but it gives you both a chance to concentrate on sensations and erogenous zones without having to swing from the chandeliars

glass of wine, gentle porn. (maybe?) Its all about getting you in the right frame of mind to be uninhibited without actually having to THINK about what you're doing, or going to do, or should be doing etc.

the only thing that annoyed me with Dp is that he wants sex late at night but theres me wanting to go to sleep there and then!....

ooooh i need a holiday!!

Biglips: leap on him in the morning

well he is a morning man but im not!! i do need to kick myself up the arse!!