My husband and I have not been getting on for a few years now on and off. He has a temper where he has smashed hole through door. He shouts over small things. We have 5 children . Eldest are mine from a previous and youngest 3 are ours together. We nearly split up other week as I said I felt lonely in relationship and I couldn't stop crying. He kept saying " why are your crying" . I asked if he still fancied me. He said because we don't have a sex life ( he knows it's awkward as our 2 girls keep coming in room lately and if course a 1 year old that needs settling) . He said how can he fancy me if we do not have sex. He said it twice. A week later he said he will help more round house etc but I feel different. So much has happened over years. He has no empathy and never tells me he loves me or shows it. :(