Short but a bit complicated.
I went on some dates for a few months with R, really nice man, funny, we really got on but the spark just wasn't there for me
We've kind of talked on and off since as he had some stuff in his life going on that I could give him good advice on.
Anyway I was talking to O on pof at a later date and seemed nice, said he had twin daughters from a prev relationship, they were together for 8 years, contentious at first but now they got on and have balanced contact.
R then messages me and basically tells me he knows I have been speaking to O because he's in his social circle. They drink out on a group together. And that he's not single, he's with the mother of of his twins, in fact engaged to be married in the winter and its quite obvious that this is the truth.
Obviously i ignored any more messages off O and I disabled my pof account anyway.
Went back on a week later and there's 3 further messages asking me to go for a drink or dinner. So I've snapped and sent him a message saying I know what he's actually doing and what I think of his behaviour. And calling him a cunt. It wasn't a nice message 😶
His poor wife tho!