Making excuses not to see me? Why ?

[piuiy]

Been dating 3 months casually.
He is a nice guy makes me laugh
Doesn't talk about feelings or anything.
Divorced 5 months ago now.
Asked him for another date and he said he couldn't make it as he had plans (he didn't he was lying )
Yet he texts daily and has done die 3 months.
Today he messaged soon as he got up,when he was at work and after work.
I don't understand

How do you know he was lying?

My guesses as to his behaviour:

1. He has a few women on the go and you're one of the fallback women

1. He has to be the one in control of the relationship / dates

Sorry, he is not that in to you. Enjoys knowing he has the ability to keep you dangling and seeing if you respond.

How often have you actually met up?

7-8 times now.
We have slept together

He got with you 2 months after his divorce?
He's still finding his feet. People are generally in a messy state after a divorce, and best not to expect anything.

He likes the ego boost.

Maybe you are too keen, men love the frill of the chAse.

Leave him waiting for a reply to texts.

You're an easy shag who he can ignore when it suits him, but you'll be there when he wants sex. I'm sorry, but it's true. He's smart enough to know that if he strings you along just enough you'll stick around.

He did tell me he wasn't sure what he was looking for and was enjoying not answering to anyone.
He said if everyone is single...nobody can get wrong

Forget about him he's boosting his ego and playing games with many

When someone says they don't know what they are looking for, they are really saying, 'I don't want a relationship with you, but you'll do until I find someone I do want a relationship with.' Doubly so if they are only just out of a marriage.

You are his sticking plaster girl - he likes texting when he's bored, he has no intention of ever committing, and if you hang around and call him out on this in 6 months' time, he'll say, 'I told you I don't like answering to anyone!'

If you want a relationship, he isn't the one. I think you deserve better. Do you think you do though?

If what you want is a long term full on relationship, Don’t see him, if you like casual then keep in touch and see what happens

Dump.

You're being far too needy! he as only recently got divorced, give the man a break.

if you are desperate for commitment, this guy isn't in the right head space so move on.

Read the book Why men love bitches. It's not as derogatory as it sounds but it has some great advice in there.

Agree with PPs. You're fun for when it suits him.

He's not interested in a relationship. If you want a relationship, you'll need to find someone else.

I think that someone so fresh post-divorce is a bad bet.

People who’ve recently separated - men and women - need time to find their feet even if they don’t realise it. I’m sure he’s not a terrible guy but the timing is awful. I think that you should back away, or accept something very casual.