To still think about a fling from five years ago?

[hayre]

Been with current bf for 3 years and good so far.

Before him I had a 2-3 month fling with a different guy. He was just my type but not so bright. Tall, Jewish, Architect, dark hair, international, and cultured.... the dream

He was a total dick though, and very arrogant. Somehow though, I STILL gaze dreamily at his facebook... or think about him

He did ask me out for a drink last year but I obviously said no

Why is it that you still think of him then? Seems that he was your type physically, plus you say he was international and cultured, your dream - but that he was not bright enough, a total dick and arrogant. Is that your type still?

It sounds a little immature to me. Don't be foolish and let a dream which would probably come to nothing undermine your ongoing life....

Hopefully the boyfriend wisens up and gets a new girlfriend soon.

He was just my type but not so bright. Tall, Jewish, Architect, dark hair, international, and cultured.... the dreamblush

You’re hung up on the dream not the real human behind it. Get a grip!

"I can't forgive you, even if I could, you wouldn't pardon me for seeing through you and yet, I cannot cure myself of love. For what I thought you were, before I knew you..."

I forget who wrote that but anyway it's a thing. Just thoughts, you didn't go for a drink with him. It's just a futile wish, the mind is a funny thing.

Don't beat yourself up, just remind yourself of how arrogant he was and how much better your boyfriend is.