toxic family members

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Does anyone have 1 family member that for unknown reasons, (possibly jealousy in our case) dislikes you/your husband and tries to poison everyone in your family with lies and made up stories? Its hard to explain how it feels to be on the receiving end, a mixture of anger, betrayal, and wanting to set things straight. This is near impossible as this person manages to get others to believe them somehow. The 1 family member in our case doesn't matter as what he thinks about us is based on his own insecurities and inadequate feelings, we know this, but the people he poisons do matter and after years of it we are running out of family. Anyone else in the same boat? and how have you managed to deal with it? thanks in advance for any advice.

We went NC with the toxic person, and as for those who believed her we couldn't be bothered with them either so we are pretty much NC with a whole side of family. When Dh meets them at events (funerals mostly) most still chat to him, but he's not in contact in between those times. We have friends and other family members who make up for the lack of contact though. If people are willing to believe made up shite and judge you for it there really is no sense trying to convince them otherwise. You're better off without them.

This is very true, if people want to believe the crap he says without hearing or asking us and judging us, we shouldn't waste too much time worrying. Our situation is made worse as DH bitter ex wife is involved in the siding up against us, full on parental alienation the works. People can be right shit heads can't they. We have gone NC with him and the closest family that have been heavily influenced, but its the unfairness I think is what I'm having he hardest time with and the fact our children have been dragged into the hatred too, that's hard to deal with.