Is it a red flag if a man has been on a dating site for a loooong time?

[MaisieMollyMilly]

Although that makes me a red flag too

I've had a profile online for a while but have been too nervous to actually do anything with it.

There's one man who looks nice and has a reasonably well-written profile but he's been on there since I joined. Is that strange?

Not at all!

For the love of God please don't have children.

I am happy with a fabulous man i met old. He joked he'd dated every woman in the surrounding 30 miles! He is truly fabulous and we are perfectly suited. Don't judge someone for continuing to search for love!

That's a bit harsh DrMorbius.

But you’ve been on there as long as it has! How can you hold it against him. Maybe he too wasn’t using the site all this time or maybe he did.

If I'm being perfectly honest I'm looking for reasons to self-sabotage!

Delete your account until you're ready to date then
I've had a profile on tinder for 5 years! I have deactivated it for periods when I didn't want to date but I've dated lots of men in that time - none of whom were right for me to settle down with, is that a red flag for men looking to date me?

Maybe drmorbius was on the the wrong thread?

Well I joined a dating site at one point but I've never used it, so I suppose it could look like I've been on there ages.

It could mean he's a player, it could mean he's not very active on it, it could mean he's not found the right person. On its own, it doesn't mean a lot, really.