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Cruel jab

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Sophie0579 · 23/12/2018 15:15

In an argument my partner mentioned sex and I said I don't know why he was bringing sex into it and is that all he's concerned about and he turned round and said I wasn't that great in bed for him to only want to come round for that. I'm so hurt by the comment. He said afterwards that he didn't mean it but I can't forget it, he's always saying really hurtful things in anger and calling me a C and expects me to forgive because he was angry. So upset

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 23/12/2018 15:17

I'm not surprised you're upset. Tell him he need never come around for sex again as you're no longer interested in him - and it's HIS loss.

So sorry that he was mean to you. Let that be the last unkind comment he makes by never allowing him to speak to you again.

You deserve better. Make 2019 the year that you might meet somebody worthy of you. Thanks

woollyheart · 23/12/2018 15:22

You don't have to forgive people for things they say in anger. Quite often people are cruelly honest when they are angry.

You deserve better than this. Either he doesn't really love you, or he likes being cruel to those he loves. Neither of these is very desirable for you.

I would agree with him that the sex is under par and suggest that you both find someone more compatible.

Toptheginup · 24/12/2018 07:39

You shouldn't put up with this, the hurtful comments will chip away at you until there's nothing left and you're on rock bottom with no self worth

labazs · 24/12/2018 08:15

certainly this would spell the beginning of the end for me he has no respect for you what with the name calling and being so rude

knobblykneesandturnedouttoes · 24/12/2018 08:19

For over a decade I put up with stuff like that. Please please get rid of him. By putting you down he will probably make you feel grateful for any scrap of love or kindness.
Freedom is awesome, I know it's hard but totally worth it.

Ladytinselmuff · 24/12/2018 09:15

You don't need this & you don't need him! He's a nasty bully. He meant to hurt you whether he thinks you are great in bed or not, which is irrelevant. If it's like this now it's probably not going to get better is it?It is HIS problem, not yours. What a dickhead. Is he great in bed? Bet he's a selfish twat!! Grrrr.

subspace · 24/12/2018 09:18

You don't need a partner who will call you a C and tell you you're shit in bed, you really don't.

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