What would you do

[Sadbuttrue9]

Hi,

Open to all views.

Brother visiting from overseas,( oz to uk), haven't seen him.in 7 years. He arranged months ago to meet near other family, as did'nt want to travel any more than necessary. Ok, fine.

Other family been difficult about us staying at theirs, days they have off etc

Brother isn't single, but girlfriend getting on plane back to family for Xmas.(uk to Ireland) Brother won't visit me, a 45 plane journey.*Scotland. I have 2 kids and 2 dogs.

He expects me to drive down...7 hours...kids and dogs.( pups).
It would be a 45 min plane journey to see us.

FGS, he's come from OZ and you just bleat on about your own practicalities, don't go then if it's such a great effort for you, he's not being unreasonable but you clearly don't want to go, not his fault you have puppies either.

What Adora10 said

Thanks for replies.

I am going to see him, kids and puppies and all. So I guess a follow up post on that should be fun! Absolutely , I do want to see him, so good to see the replies getting straight to the point.

After some reflection I have come to the following understandings:

1. We were close, but him emigrating changed this.
2. I see him not seeing me as him not caring, he sees me not going to him as not caring.
3. He has no kids , so he doesn't understand about carting all the presents over, toilet breaks on a long car journey (Mum I feel sick) etc etc.
4. I've not flown to Oz so I guess I don't get the hell that is that journey.

Wish me luck !

Have a great time up.

I'm glad you're going.