Help me cancel this date!

[Bestwestpest]

I broke up with my ex a year ago - he was a horrible, abusive man and it felt very raw for some months. I've been chatting on and off to a man who seems lovely, but I've always refused a date to as I wasn't ready. I now thought I was, and we arranged a date for tonight. But today my self preservation has kicked in and I absolutely do not want to go. I've hardly slept last night with worry and I know I have to cancel. How do I do it whilst being nice and without bringing up the drama of my past relationship?

This isn't a date... it's a big Reset button you are going to press.

Go, have dinner, chat, come home and remember that some men are nice. That's all. You don't have to do anything at all.

Yay - keep us posted :)

Watching this thread totally...... Hope you have a lovely time.

He sounds fantastic by the way ❤️

He sounds lovely! I hope you have a lovely time tonight.

I hope you enjoy tonight OP. He does indeed sound like a decent person.

Have a lovely time! You should be really proud of yourself for going

Good luck!

I'm so pleased for you, OP. Enjoy.
There are some really lovely men out there.

I think I needed both the MN call and the call from him to go - individually I wouldn't have went through with it. So thank you all!!! He's nipped to the loo haha so thought I'd update to say it is going amazingly

Ooh, I love an update. Well done Op - I'm really pleased for you.

You'll sleep like a log tonight. lol

Yay!

Great update OP, enjoy and don’t overthink it x

Came on just for an update. Fab news. We are all cheering you on.

Aww lovely - enjoy :)

Dont play games with people if you are not ready to date.If you were a bloke you would have a massive ear bashing.

Oooh well done op. Have a lovely evening

Oh my god please send more updates, we love a good dating thread on here, we do!

💖💖💖

what does he look like

Play games?? It's not like I've got feeling for anybody else and I've told him the complete truth.... he's soooo lovely! And he's a total feminist and anfi-racist, awaiting proposal 😂🤣

Magenta how is she playing games, she couldn't have been more up front with the guy!

Glad it's going so well up ❤

This is a beautiful thing ❤️💐❤️

Aw so glad you didn't bottle it!!!! Nerves are the worst! Hopefully you get a goodnight kiss x

I hope it went brilliantly op and that you're feeling high as a kite this morning!

@BestWestPest Glad you’re having a nice time. FWIW it’s taken me 3.5 years to be able to date again following a divorce from an abusive bastard. It took me a while to be able to trust myself not to pick another twat, IYSWIM?! Also recommend therapy. Helped me immensely.