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Would you be upset ?

28 replies

andypandys · 02/12/2018 19:44

Just started seeing a new guy
Been together a few months
It was his birthday last weekend and I arranged a trip to inc hotel and his fave restaurant out of town
We went with his best mate and his girlfriend too and one other couple
He got very drunk, very quick
At the restaurant at the end of the meal he said to the table ' let's go fuck some whores in soho'
It made us argue and I ended up going back to the hotel alone
I don't know the other couples very well but one of the gfriends said it wouldn't have bothered her ?!
Thoughts please x

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Gardai · 02/12/2018 19:46

I’d say that’s a red flag

Willowcat77 · 02/12/2018 19:48

Um, he sounds awful 😕 That would be the end for me. Sorry OP 🙁

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andypandys · 02/12/2018 19:49

I think so too...just think it's an odd horrific thing to say...
There's been a couple of things actually....thought I'd check with you guys on here

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AsleepAllDay · 02/12/2018 19:50

That's the end of the relationship for me

TokyoSushi · 02/12/2018 19:50

🚩🚩🚩 not nice at all

dudsville · 02/12/2018 19:51

Just supporting what you already know. And alcohol is no excuse.

Heartofglass21 · 02/12/2018 19:54

Dump him and be grateful you dodged a bullet, he sounds horrible.

Orangesandpears · 02/12/2018 19:56

I think this is the perfect time to exit stage left

Doghorsechicken · 02/12/2018 20:04

That just sounds like a sarcastic comment to me. I would’ve just laughed. Or was he being serious?

AtrociousCircumstance · 02/12/2018 20:05

Anyone who makes a ‘joke’ like that has deep rooted misogyny. What he said may as well be ‘use some objects for sex’. He has no respect for women and no respect for you, announcing that.

Fucking gross. Dump.

IWasTrendingThereForAMinute · 02/12/2018 20:07

Even in the event he's joking, it's mysogynistic bull shite. In the event he's for real, do you really want a monthly appointment at the clap clinic?
Sack him off he's a wanker.

userofthiswebsite · 02/12/2018 20:13

Nasty nasty nasty. Sorry.

Thankyounext · 02/12/2018 20:13

So did he?

madcatladyforever · 02/12/2018 20:15

Red flag for sure.

itsfuckingnotducking · 02/12/2018 20:20

God no he sounds awful

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andypandys · 02/12/2018 20:20

Who knows if he did?! Or does
but I ended it and he's now constantly calling me saying he was ' joking '

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Thankyounext · 02/12/2018 20:21

But it’s not funny is it?

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andypandys · 02/12/2018 20:22

No definitely not
There have been other signs so he can stay away I think

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Bananalanacake · 02/12/2018 20:25

Was he joking about or being serious. And does he always get drunk so quickly.

BeekyChitch · 02/12/2018 20:25

Sounds like something my male friend would say and think he's being funny. Usually we would turn round and take the piss because he's an idiot when drunk but great guy sober. If he was really drunk I wouldn't take it too serious. Unless it's the type of humour you really don't want to put up with.

BeekyChitch · 02/12/2018 20:27

Sorry OP posted before I read you ended things!

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andypandys · 02/12/2018 20:29

Yeah possibly a joke? But as I say there have been other things and I think he's just taken things too far on other times

Yes he's a liability when drunk

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NC4Now · 02/12/2018 20:34

If you feel uncomfortable around him when he’s drunk, that’s not a good sign.

AllStar14 · 02/12/2018 20:37

Very off thing to say as a joke. What other things?

AllStar14 · 02/12/2018 20:37

Odd not off!

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