Double Life

[Beeebop]

I've just been watching a programme on the tv about men and women who live double lives. As someone who's been cheated on previously, I was wondering what you think the difference is between an affair and a double life.

I guess the difference is that it’s not a primary relationship plus ‘a bit on the side’. It’s a complete second relationship, possibly including kids, often including family and friends being aware of it.

@TheStoic that's kind of my understanding, two relationships running on separate tracks. It was quite astonishing the lengths people went to maintain both.

It takes a certain kind of person, that’s for sure.

I’ve never heard of a woman living a ‘double life’, to be honest.

Presumably because why would she want the shit-work of two families? #cynical

@TheStoic there was only on but she didn't have children to either man but some great holidays!

2 x holidays I could definitely get on board with.

XH's childhood babysitter married a high earning American corporate executive. They had a fantastic life, lived all over the world, lovely homes etc. Eventually (and I can't remember how) it came out thatfor most of their long married life he had also been "married" to someone else and had a family with her too.
He'd pulled it off because the nature of his job meant that long absences weren't suspicious, he was a high earner so standards were maintained. It was shocking and morbidly fascinating when all was revealed. Utterly bizarre. His whole life was a lie, and by default so werethe lives of both families.

@FlamingJuno it was fascinating but the lies caught up with them all eventually. I just don't know how they have the balls to do it

Is the programme called double lives ? Would love to watch it

I'll send you the link once I get back in @Stressandmess

Thank you! @beeebop

Is there a reason you can't post the name of the programme on the thread? Does it have to be privately messaged to people?

I'd like to know too

Sounds fascinating. Did anyone watch the Sky series Bliss (Stephen Mangan/Heather Graham) this year. It was about this exactly, a bit clunky and unrealistic in parts but I found it watcheable.

OP - Please post the name of the programme or the link here.

Netflix had a one first I watched about finding out the truth and then I was watching cheaters on YouTube (was watching catfish first and then it did a suggestion) and the video started about double life cheaters ... it's not on my phone as through the tv so I can't find the actual link. The first video on YouTube had a picture of a man walking in a park but they all just play one after the other. Once I'm back from work (not at home away for a week) I'll see if I can search through the videos on the tv that we've watched

You can't get more of a double life than this. Or maybe you can.

://www.google.co.uk/search?q=man+killed+himself+after+double+life+was+exposed+Hertfordshire&oq=man+killed+himself+after+double+life+was+exposed+Hertfordshire&aqs=chrome..69i57.42735j0j7&client=ms-android-samsung&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2163298/amp/Andrew-Ingham-hanged-secret-double-life-2-wives-12-children-exposed.html

Hmm I think I need to watch this 🤔 although it may just set me off again!