DH and I have been on rocky ground for years. He is depressed has anxiety, hasn’t worked for 9 years, claims to be a SAHD but apart from school run does nothing with DD (I work from home so I know she comes straight through the door goes upstairs and plays on her computer until i finish work). After lots of discussions over the last couples of years about him doing more I finally told him I don’t want to live with him anymore. He makes me miserable. No idea how this is going to work - he has gone to the cinema tonight. He didn’t seem bothered. He is going to go stay in the caravan for a couple of weeks whilst we sort stuff out. I feel so relieved. My mood is much better. Looking forward to some time without him!