Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Flip

Original poster

Working with an old flame

5 replies

OnlyMe45 · 15/09/2018 02:22

An old flame started working at my workplace recently. Fair enough. But I've found out he's been showing some 'intimate' pictures he's kept that I'd asked him to get rid of to other staff I'm good friends with. How should I proceed?

OP posts:

LoveObject · 15/09/2018 08:21

HR, immediately. Keep it official. How absolutely awful of him. Head high, OP. It’s clear why he’s an ex.

RedPencil · 15/09/2018 08:24

I agree, HR. That is horrendous.

Thingsdogetbetter · 15/09/2018 09:04

HR immediately and I'd also consider going to the police.

Lizzie48 · 15/09/2018 09:09

Definitely involve HR, that really is awful. And yes, I also think you should consider going to the police.

funnylittlefloozie · 15/09/2018 09:13

"Old flame" implies someone for whom you still have some affectionate feelings. This dude is a sexual bully. Go STRAIGHT to HR. If any of your colleagues have been shown these pictures, they should be going to HR as well!!

I work with a number of people that i have had relationships with (dont ask). We don't spread nasty gossip about each other, or share dirty pictures of each other. We treat each other with respect. THAT is what old flames do. This guy needs to be booted out of your workplace.

Flip