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Colleague came into my bedroom, am I right to be angry?

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RubyN · 19/07/2018 22:35

I am working at an intensive educational centre away from home for a month so I am living there with a few other employees.

At the beginning I asked for a lock for the room and was repeatedly told I would receive it soon. But...it hasn't been forthcoming and I've been given excuses about the security people giving my boss the run-around RE keys.

Last night 2 boys walked into another teacher's bedroom in the building I am sleeping in. She started yelling and they ran off, but they know who they are now due to CCTV.

Today I was supposed to have a shift at night following my 8 hour shift but was told it was no longer necessary and 'enjoy your night off'. I've been practically doing 3 jobs on some days and this past week I often fall asleep after work and miss dinner. Despite telling me I had the night off, I groggily was woken by my colleague calling me on the phone. 2 mins later I heard him shouting on me from outside and I heard him open the bedroom door. Wtf is he doing coming into the room? He has ever done this before, nor has any member of staff. He sent me a message afterwards saying he needed me to work after all but I am SO annoyed he actually opened my bedroom door while I was sleeping in bed.

Am I right to raise this RE a privacy issue with my boss asap?

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DoubleNegativePanda · 19/07/2018 22:36

Absolutely raise it with your boss! I would be raging already about not having a lock on my door.

Aquamarine1029 · 20/07/2018 05:38

You should be tearing the place apart until you get a lock. It's 100% absolutely fucking outrageous that you are unable to secure yourself in your bedroom. I would raise hell like a banshee and I would report that fucker for letting himself in your room. Don't stand for this.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 20/07/2018 05:41

Get yourself a wedge to prevent anyone from entering your room.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 20/07/2018 05:44

Fuck that, I’d be going home.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 20/07/2018 05:52

That's appalling! You could get yourself a door wedge though and put it on your side if the door. I always do that in hotels etc.

Gottokondo · 20/07/2018 05:55

I'd tell my boss that without a lock I have to leave today because people do enter your bedroom.

BigGreenOlives · 20/07/2018 05:56

You need a lock for two reasons, your personal safety and the safety of your possessions. Who is responsible for your phone, purse etc if you can’t lock them up when you are working?

PatheticNurse · 20/07/2018 05:57

That's shocking. Also how can you protect your possessions if your room is open to everyone

PatheticNurse · 20/07/2018 05:58

BigGreenOlives - great minds

strawberrisc · 20/07/2018 06:03

It wasn’t him was it? 🤣

Colleague came into my bedroom, am I right to be angry?

Uncreative · 20/07/2018 06:06

You are in education. Use the word the safeguarding. It usually goads people into a response. And put it in writing.

A similar thing happened when I was working in a similar setting - drunken colleague came into the bedroom of a sleeping colleague and started getting undressed.

TransplantsArePlants · 20/07/2018 06:08

It's not just privacy. It's personal safety and the safety of your possessions. I would tell him that unless a lock is put on your door today, you will be going home.

AngelsSins · 20/07/2018 11:43

I can’t believe they’re being so utterly reckless about safety like this. Absolutely shocking. Damn right you need to kick up a massive fuss.

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RubyN · 20/07/2018 17:24

I contacted the boss last night so he could start making arrangements for me to have the key. This morning he sat next to me at breakfast and ate in silence, ignoring me completely. He's not a 'morning person' but I find this rude.

I've befriended another teacher here and confided in her about the situation - later that day when I spoke to the boss about it, he clearly already knew all the details. He had a smirk on his face almost the whole time and I felt totally disrespected.

He blatantly said he cannot get me a key and I will need to barricade myself in. He tells me he is personally using a cupboard - that's great for him but all such items are too heavy for me.

So now I feel unsupported by my so-called friend who blabbed what I told her to him and also no solution. I feel upset but am trying to remember I only have a week left....I have no choice as I need the money.

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Zaphodsotherhead · 20/07/2018 17:27

Surely barricading yourself in with heavy furniture is a massive risk in case of fire?

What the hell are they doing telling you there's no way to lock your door? What kind of cowboy outfit is this anyway?

bringbacksideburns · 20/07/2018 17:31

Who the hell do you work for???

Raise it to whoever is senior to him. He is unbelievable.

Gotthetshirt23 · 20/07/2018 17:58

Paint or flour bomb over the door .....

pumpkintree · 20/07/2018 18:16

pack your bag call a cab or get in your car and go . don't tell them either. Just email your boss

PatheticNurse · 20/07/2018 18:42

Don't automatically think bad of your friend. She could have mentioned it to your boss with the best intentions

TheProvincialLady · 20/07/2018 18:45

Barricading yourself in is a massive fire risk. Can you just go home? I think I would. This sounds unsafe and hideous.

ThinkingCat · 20/07/2018 18:55

I would go home. It isn't safe. Why would they use this accommodation? Have they used it before? Has the so-called friend got a lock on her door?

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RubyN · 20/07/2018 20:56

I can't just go home for 2 reasons.

I have a lot of belongings here and a friend helped me with everything. They are only free to help me again nxt weekend.
I need the money. I 100% don't have the luxury of turning down the second week.

I'll definitely file a complaint once I leave though. My boss's argument is that the accommodation owners won't give him ANY keys. He says he has tried his hardest but they refuse to hand them over.

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RB68 · 20/07/2018 21:02

As others have said get a wedge of some sort for your side of the door - place at side with handle, it only needs to be a triangle of wood or something or I am sure there would be some rubber door stops around that would also work

peekyboo · 20/07/2018 21:35

Contact the security people etc direct and find out if anyone has mentioned anything at all to them. Bet nothing has been said.

ThinkingCat · 20/07/2018 22:17

This is making me extremely angry on your behalf. Your employer must be in breach of legislation regarding both safety and privacy. Whoever booked the accommodation should have ensured that each employee would have a lockable bedroom. Also an 8 hour shift and a last minute change from an "evening off" to another shift also sounds wrong. Are there any employment lawyers around on MN who can point to some relevant legislation?

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