Comparing Yourself With A Sibling

[Jo6134]

Hi everyone,

Just interested in finding out how people on here compare themselves with their siblings.

For me, I guess my problem stems from the fact that I am a twin and we were always compared with each other growing up. I was always the cleverer one, got better exam grades etc etc

Fast forward 20 years and he has a great job with great pay, lots of responsibility and people look up to him, great social life etc but also manages to juggle kids. I on the other hand had to give up my half decent job to raise young family and probably feel at the other end of scale to where he is.

Any advice to stop me feeling like a complete loser? I do try to appreciate what I have but feel completely insignificant next to him

Growing up, my sibling and I were competitive over things like academic results, boy/girlfriends etc (we’re not twins but only one school year apart). But now we’re adults I think we’ve put that kind of thing behind us. After all, you could compare yourself to anyone you know who seems to be very successful - is it worse because it’s a sibling?

Maybe it’s time for you to go back to work? Would that help your self esteem?