How on earth do I fix my fear of intimacy?

[CaitsandDogs]

Sitting here crying after making a total fool of myself during a date. I'm 26 and I've never had a boyfriend or anything. I talked myself into trying online dating and arranged to meet this guy.

I was a complete and total weirdo. I knocked over two glasses and I couldn't hear what he was saying because of the music playing. He tried to hold my hand and I practically launched myself in the opposite direction. The end was even worse, I just kind of shouted GOODBYE and hoofed it as far as possible away.

I am so embarrassed. Please help me be normal.

Sounds like the location of your date didn’t help.
Where did you go? Where (roughly- city?) do you live? What about a quiet pub or a nice cafe for coffee?
If it was your first date in a while. Don’t stress! It takes practice! Just put it down to practice and don’t dwell on it. Did you get on with the guy? Did you click? If so, could you text and explain you were really nervous?

I've been to the same place with friends and it didn't seem as full of ways to embarrass myself. I thought drinks might be easier than coffee.

I've never been on a date before but it was so awful. Poor guy must be running for the hills.

I know this doesn't help you tonight but I have listened to a lot of Alan Robarge's clips on youtube. Also, there are books about attachment styles. Can't remember their names but reading a few books about attachment styles really helped me.

Ahhh see! It was your first date! You’re only 26! Well done for even bloody going!!
Yes inside you’re cringing but give it another week and you’ll be fine. I was the same. Took me aaaaaaages to get going!