A lot of us seem to have a tendency to hang on to, obsess about, or idealise men (or women) who really just aren’t “all that”. A good way to ease yourself out of this mindset it to focus on his or her flaws.
So what are the things about this person that make them a terrible catch? Go to town!
Here are mine to get started, SO tempted to forward him this list!
- Makes horrible, sweeping, racist comments about anyone not 100% Anglo Saxon
- Homophobic
- Makes harsh, judgemental comments about anyone not living up to his standards of looks or intelligence, but is himself an overweight scruff
- Objectifies women, but will strongly deny this
- Fickle to the point of causing emotional trauma - Can go from loving you in the morning to “never contact me again” that afternoon. Then back again within a few weeks
- Conflict avoidant and highly dismissive of emotions or concerns that he finds uncomfortable
- Manages the impressions and emotions of those close to him by withholding information and lying by omission. Becomes highly defensive if questioned.
- Weak personal boundaries - if you do something he doesn’t agree with he takes it as a personal insult. Gets angry if you don’t handle your issues the way he thinks you should. Sees people close to him as an extension of himself
- Puts the TV on in the bedroom without fail, to something he likes. Pawn Stars is not very romantic background noise
- Rigid about his personal schedule. Always in a hurry to leave to do something banal like his ironing
- Nearly always seems to be over tired or ill
- Picky eater, comparable to an 8-year-old
- Football shirts. Need I say more
Oh I could go on and on! And this list doesn’t even touch the specifics of the shit things he’s done in our barely-there relationship.