Had enough

[Jilliyan]

My OH refuses to have sex with me unless it's when he wants it. It's never when I'm in the mood for it, and it doesn't happen often either. Literally twice a month (if I'm lucky). Is this normal?

Both our DCs are 7 and 4... so it's hardly due to tiredness as we work really easy jobs in terms of working hours and commuting distance.

Sigh.. I'm at my wits end

I don't think there is a normal, but is he controlling in other areas? Is he punishing you for something? Otherwise, do you get on well?

We get on well 98% of the time. I don't know if he's punishing me, I would like to think that he isn't. Whenever I hint at sex he'll make excuses about how tired he is etc.. I exercise to keep myself fit, try to dress well but whatever I do, he still won't touch me

Have you looked at a thread in the sex section "why do men go off sex". Plenty of ideas there. Something might strike a chord. Has your sex become predictable? Tiredness really does sound like an excuse. You don't need to spend hours having sex, and if one of you is tired, the other can do more!