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Work colleague attitude

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Onlyme100 · 12/05/2018 22:16

went out for dinner with a few colleagues from work. There are groups at the dinner table . To my right friends. To my left friends but 1 who didn't talk to me ....ok that's fair enough. Not everyone bonds with everyone. I get it. But at the end I decided to order a dessert to which this one lady made a face and said "uuuuhgg that's disgusting. Honestly this is what the peasents used to eat, like seriously it's disgusting who eats that !" So embarrassed I went ahead and ordered it anyway....thinking who the hell are you to say that. I am so upset right now as this one person had ruined my evening...nasty. am I overacting? Reacting? Taking things too seriously ....but honestly k had felt tension right from the word go.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 12/05/2018 22:19

What was the pudding?!

She was rude and unpleasant, and it's quite astonishing she felt it ok to say that to your face.

I wouldn't let it ruin your evening though, she's being absurd and no one (normal) would think badly of you, only her.

ScreamingValenta · 12/05/2018 22:21

Rude and crass behaviour. Possibly not aimed at hurting you - it sounds like something an idiot would say purely for attention - but very unpleasant. However, the only person who should feel embarrassed is her.

wowbutter · 12/05/2018 22:22

I would have eaten it, with eye contact at her the whole time.

BettyBaggins · 12/05/2018 22:23

Yes, what was the pudding? Was it yummy? Grin

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Onlyme100 · 12/05/2018 22:24

Thanks. Talk about putting someone down....wish I just stayed home. But hankyou so much for your opinion.... Flowers

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Onlyme100 · 12/05/2018 22:26

It was actually some strange Asian dessert.... Don't know anything much about it....but yes it was nice.

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ThreeJoeys · 12/05/2018 22:27

I would have eaten it, with eye contact at her the whole time.

Grin Yes!

Nasty cow. I would have exaggerated eating it too while staring at her.

AssassinatedBeauty · 12/05/2018 22:31

Is she from an Asian background? Being charitable towards her, maybe she was trying to warn you about it potentially not being very nice. Perhaps!

phlewf · 12/05/2018 22:37

Ah, you’ve been out with my mother. Often I am told no when I order peasnet food. Doesn’t apply to French and Italian obviously, their peasant food is acceptable.
I eat my chilli and put all the available condiments on too. I try to make a point about rather a peasent than a dictator but more about it relationship.

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Onlyme100 · 12/05/2018 22:48

Hi...not from an Asian background. I just felt so belittled and attacked.... Funny how a comment can just ruin your evening... Personally I would never judge what anyone eats... Even if I think it I wouldn't say it's yuck or compare it to peasants.... That's because thankfully I'm not a snob.

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Gemini69 · 12/05/2018 23:57

She's bang out of order RUDE... Flowers

Disquieted1 · 13/05/2018 00:04

Occasionally, and sparingly, it is perfectly appropriate to tell someone to Fuck Off. This was one of those times.

UndomesticHousewife · 13/05/2018 11:11

Wtf is a peasant dessert? Confused don't let yourself be bothered by that person!

PositivelyPERF · 13/05/2018 11:15

I just want to know what the Asian dessert is called?

PositivelyPERF · 13/05/2018 11:15

On the plus side, she really made herself look a right dick in front of the others. 😁

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