Partner throwing things

[Nurse1980]

Hi

We are in the process of doing gradual retreat with our son to try and sort his none existing sleeping out.

Dad did it today as I’m doing it all week while he’s at work.

Anyway he was doing it today for a nap. Got him to sleep and my partner woke him up accidentally. I just commented that he had woke the baby up.

He totally lost it and while holding the baby and in front of our five year old daughter, he got hold of the arch of his baby bouncer and threw it across the room while swearing so it hit the wall. Both baby and daughter burst into tears. He is now blaming me as I said that he woke the baby up and that wound him up apparently. Nothing to do with our crying son.

Won’t apologise or take any responsibility.

Anyone else been here?

Be careful Nurse - he's not taking any responsibility - nor is he sorry - I start talking to women's aid - he thinks it should all just "go away."
Tell your friends and family and call the police if he does it again.
Look after yourself.

It was my fault for winding him up so he says.

Yup, classic line from an abuser's script. My ex used to say exactly the same.

Sorry you're in such a hard place, OP. Can you talk to anyone in real life about this?

You need to seek help, pronto. When your daughter mentions this at school you are putting yourself in a dodgy position if you haven't been seen to take steps to protect your children :-(