Mansplaining

[WellDoneTiger]

My STBX husband doesn't 'do' conversation. He does lectures. He talks at me, explaining stupid things in great detail, putting me down. He doesn't ask.

Today I asked him about musical rhythm as I'm struggling a bit with it. Cue long lecture. He knows best. He understands it perfectly and it is something only special people like him have.

Like with sex, I don't know what I am supposed to do. If I'm not in the room it makes no difference. He will just carry on. If I have my back to him he will carry on.

I told him he was mansplaining. Of course he leapt to his defence. I said, it's ok, women can femsplain as well. Is femspain a word?

You don't sound rambling to me, OP. I get what you are saying. My father used to do this to my mother and sisters and I. The endless lecturing.

It all made sense and good for on moving on from him.

Thank you for your understanding, Puerto.

It has taken me a very long time to understand what it was and to start making sense to myself about it. The mansplaining is really only the tip of the iceberg. It is the nice bit about the relationship.

I think OP meant “mood” not “room” in which case he’s a rapist, so a change in tone from those mocking may be much needed.

I hope you’re ok OP, and feel free to correct me on the above. How long until you’re free of him?

Glad to see the previous nasty post has been deleted.