How to set up an EA relationship

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There was a post on here recently with a link to a blog showing how EA relationships hook you in . It was cleverly written as a sort of 'how to guide'. It was in the middle of another thread and now I'm looking for it but can't remember where. Does anyone recognize what I'm talking about and have the link please?

Why would you need that

EA as in emotional abuse?
You want to set up an emotionally abusive relationship on purpose?

I think OP is looking for a piece about how EA relationships hook you in, which is disguised as a 'how to' - not wanting actual instructions for how to have an EA.

Was typing a reply and remembered it. Can't do links on my phone but it's called sick systems: how to keep someone with you forever. I found it really helpful then lost it.

Thank you for the replies...and I can confirm that I'm definitely not trying to set one up on purpose. It's more an understanding where I've been thing

Thank you OP .... mentions intermittent reinforcement, which was my situation all over...I hope you’re okay

Thank you for the flowers wading.... (I can really relate to your user name). Things are not great but they are moving...it's tough going though. I thought the article was great. For me, the 'things will be better when...' is the bit that really hits home.

Great piece! Have sent it to a few people who will recognise it.