I have a new partner, have only been with him a month.
I've come home today with a really sore bum. I can feel a lump outside (sorry) which throbs and feels like a pile that flared up in pregnancy but went away again. It isn't inside, it's on the outside.
I've dosed myself up with an anusol suppository and cream this afternoon, it feels so sore. I can't get in with my go for nearly two weeks grrr.
Anyway, would the swelling be noticed during vaginal sex in a dark environment? I'm paranoid and it isn't something I want to share with him right now. We don't do bum stuff lol so I don't need to worry about it being touched, more just would it show up? Sooo annoyed, I've been single for years then as soon as I meet someone this happens