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vanillasky12 · 09/04/2018 01:56

Hi! first time posting but im so lost on what to do... so recently i found a photo on my partners Ipad of a girl in her undies on his bed.. i checked the date and it was 2 months into when we had been seeing each other. We were not official girlfriend/boyfriend but we had the conversation (that he brought up) we werent going to see other people. We are now 8 months into our relationship and were so strong and i thought this was the guy i was going to marry. I guess im lost on what to do now because we were not official but we had that conversation to be exclusive. Please offer some advice or some stories if you have experienced something similar, would be so appreciated.
Also he has apologised numerous times and taken total responsiblity for what he had done but i just cant let go of why he would take the photo and to make it worse i slept in the same bed the night after.. [confuse]

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Leo36 · 09/04/2018 03:30

I think if you haven't seen any recent indications of him not being faithful you should not worry too much about that - it might be a picture that got to him at the very beginning of when your relationship started to get serious and exclusive .. good luck

AndTheBandPlayedOn · 09/04/2018 04:20

Why take the photo -exactly. Imho, this is your gut feeling raising a red flag.

Has he photographed you in bed, (with or without your knowledge)? Having to ask that question would be the end of the relationship for me, but I am very sensitive regarding privacy and the internet.

Searching for a hidden camera might satisfy in the moment, but how many times are you going to do that...nope.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/04/2018 04:28

You're only 8 months in and you've discovered he has lied to you. About something HUGE. He will lie again, I can promise you that. Any trust you had in him is shattered and that can never be repaired. Move on.

Shoxfordian · 09/04/2018 05:11

He actually took the photo rather than downloaded it from somewhere online?
Cut your losses and move on, he isn't trustworthy

user1467232073 · 09/04/2018 05:24

I’m afraid there would be doubts about him from me due to this. It would lead me to mistrust him and feel insecure. Although it would be painful to break up I wouldn’t want to waste any more time and energy on the relationship.

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