DH went up to bed before me, telling me (his words) he was “ going to polish my helmet”. He’d been up there a fair while so I nipped up to get DD’s uniform out & he called “ You’re not coming to bed are you?” & I replied that I wasn’t. DD kept coughing so a bit later I went up again to put Vicks on her feet. I really thought DH would have finished by then. As I was going downstairs he called out “ I give up”. I asked him what he meant & he said “ Too many distractions”. But it just got me the way he said it & I immediately felt the need to defend myself. He ended up saying something like “ Let’s not do this now. I want to go to sleep”. I ended up feeling rattled but is that my problem or is it his for saying something? Should he have just kept it to himself?