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What's fair when separating?

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NickyNora · 19/02/2018 21:57

It has taken me months to get to this point but today I found out my so called so had £42k in savings that I knew nothing about. In comparison I have £6k savings.

I will be telling dp to leave very soon. He has no family to go & stay with. He probably could stay at a friend's for a night or two. What is reasonable notice?

I am not prepared to put up with him for months. I have literally reached the end of the line with dp.

The realisation he had £42k in bank accounts made me realise what a massive prat I am & that he's a great big cocklodger!!

Current home is rented. Everything in my name. 4dc. I'm literally ready to do this within the next week.

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Original poster
NickyNora · 19/02/2018 21:58

So =dp!Blush

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Rainboho · 19/02/2018 22:01

Were you married?

Aprilshowerswontbelong · 19/02/2018 22:02

Travel lodge tonight.
He is a cf.

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NickyNora · 19/02/2018 22:15

Nope never married.

No I won't do it until I can get dc away for aday or two. Oldest dc is 16 & she will worry about her dad. He will play on that so I need to protect her.

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Original poster
NickyNora · 19/02/2018 22:15

What's a cf?

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Original poster
NickyNora · 19/02/2018 23:35

Is it reasonable to give dp a week to move out?

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Suebnm · 19/02/2018 23:54

No, a week is far too much notice to give him.

Original poster
NickyNora · 19/02/2018 23:58

What's reasonable Sue?

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Aprilshowerswontbelong · 20/02/2018 11:03

Cf =cheeky fucker. Send him on his way today.

Suebnm · 20/02/2018 14:20

I would give him 2 days.

Anonagain2017 · 20/02/2018 16:42

Have you asked him about where these savings have come from and why he has kept them secret?

WitchesHatRim · 20/02/2018 16:45

Are you renting?

hellsbellsmelons · 20/02/2018 16:48

How long have you been together?
Are all the DC his?
He has £42K, he can afford a hotel for a few nights.
I'd be helping him pack tonight!

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