Idols with clay feet

[sameoldtat]

Has anyone out there ever spent years fondly remember their first love. Imagining how life would have been if you had stayed with the most honest perfect person in the world. Only to discover that its all been a fantasy and they are in a fact lying dishonest cheat just like the one you married and all the time you were with them they had been putting it about like a Tom cat

I fondly remember my first love, we are in fact still friends 20 years on BUT I didn't stick with him because I felt he would never keep it in his pants. He went onto marry, works with young women but who knows if he is faithful to his wife. If it was me my insecurities would be sky high. However just to stop me being smug at how together I was my next proved to be not only unfaithful but porn addicted and mentally and physically abusive. First love was a peach compared to that!

I married my first love. Its hard work. He had a brief EA, following me miscarrying at 13 weeks, two years ago. He has had coinciding for open addiction. We are generally in a much better place, but, both the mc and his EA significantly altered me as a person. I think my point is that you probably shouldn't waste your time wondering. I shouldn't either - only I wonder who.i would have met if I hadn't stayed with dh.

He had counciling for porn addiction! Ffs, auto correct!

Nope but it's generally true that if you hero worship someone, you are looking at someone you don't know that well through rose tinted glasses ... that will be crushed underfoot as you get to know them.