Loans coming out of his ears

[Pollyisinmypocket]

Ok so before anyone bites my head off I know it’s not right to look at someone’s phone due to trust etc. Me and dh have been married for just over a year together for 5. We met abroad and I left my whole life to be with him. He’s always on his phone so tonight when he was alsleep I had a nosey to find out what’s so bloody interesting on it! Nothing that I’m worried about at all, just he has taken out 2 small loans of around £200 in the past week without telling me also we haven’t had sex in over 2 weeks and he is constantly watching porn. Not that I’m bothered about him watching porn but he doesn’t make and effort with me. I’m more pissed off the fact he’s taken the loans. I woke him up and told him to fuck off and sleep downstairs. How am I meant to trust him when he does stupid shit like this and not tell me?

He shouldn't be taking loans out without discussing it with you first what does he need the money for that you don't know about confront and talk about it

Are they payday loans? If so he is in deep financial trouble. These things snowball and £200 can turn into thousands in a matter of months. Get him to talk to stepchange who can review his situation and negotiate a payment plan.