Hi. I'm a middle aged widow just started to get to know a really lovely man. We're in a halfway sort of position in that we are more than just friends but we aren't properly an item. There is attraction on both sides. He is just very inexperienced, though enjoying himself. I don't want to come across too lovey-dovey and risk scaring him away, but I would like to show him a bit of light affection. We live 70 miles apart so it will be by email or post. No chance I will see him in person and I think a gift would be too OTT. Have an idea of what sort of a message I should put across but would just like to see what others think. 