Would this concern other women or is it just pregnancy paranoia??

[Em199]

Hi all, I’m quite new to this just wondered what other people’s opinions were on this matter! My husband constantly seems to have messages on his phone from different women who he works with, any time I glance at his phone there seems to be a message from someone! He worked with someone new the other day and I feel like all I’ve heard since is “grace said this, grace did that, grace thinks that”, tonight he’s gone out on a works party and he’s picking up one of the women he works with on the way. Am I just being jealous/paranoid or would this bother other women too?? He was messsging another girl (from work!!) a few years ago, broke up our marriage for 6 months because he wanted to be with her and then wanted to work at our marriage again. I’m getting to the point where I just thInk if I can’t trust him what’s the point but I wonder am I being unreasonable for being so bothered about what’s going on now? Help please!!

No, given his history this is far from ok.

Have you spoken to him about it?

I agree with Bifs, given he split up with you because of a woman from work before, I would be paranoid

I don't think it can be called paranoia if he has form for it. It's just plain sensible to be keeping a close eye on someone that has previously cheated.

No haven’t spoken with him because I wasn’t sure if it’s just me being weird, messages always look innocent it’s just the fact it’s so constant. I don’t even want to be the person who has to look at her husbands phone and I don’t read his messages but it just bugs me that there’s usually something there

I would be thinking how odd it is there is a 'works party' just into the New Year. Could this 'party' really be just between two people?
Sorry to say but something is amiss.

I wouldn't like it and would feel very insecure about it. In fact, I would feel so shit and on edge I would just leave. Its not worth feeling like that x

Your not paranoid your worried history is going to repeat it’s self. I can’t believe he has the nerve to be openly texting and picking up women from work after leaving you for a woman at work!! What a scum bag, that would tell me all I needed to know, he can’t have much respect for you or your feelings at all.