My husband and I have been separated for 2 years. We have been married for 23 years and have secondary age children. We moved to NZ several years ago and have no family over here with us.
We have had 3 sessions counselling about possible reconciliation. As a minimum I would like to improve our methods of communication.
He left in order to start a new relationship, so trust is also a big issue. In hindsight our communication with each other was not good and we had stopped trying because we both loved each other and discussing things just lead to upset and not to any resolution.
As we live 2 hours away from each other counselling is logistically difficult. I'm currently in the UK on a 5 week holiday so no counselling is taking place anyway.
As there any books people could recommend that we could both read that would help?