Why do I feel guilt?

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Hi all,

I just need an outsiders perspective. I’m thinking of leaving my dh... We’ve been married 10 years and have 2 dcs. My reasons are that I feel we’ve grown apart, I don’t feel like I love him any more. He is also constantly moody and negative and has a very short temper, especially when it comes to the children. Just tonight he called them “stupid kids” because they didn’t do what he wanted. He’s not a bad father but I feel like he has zero tolerance towards them.

I just can’t help but feel guilty, like im being selfish by making this decision. He keeps telling me how much he loves me and how proud he is of our marriage. Which just makes me feel awful. It’s almost like he suspects how I feel. I know he would be absolutely heartbroken if we split. He wouldn’t take it well at all.

I just don’t think I can carry on like this, I feel miserable. :(

Consider your options NOW!

It lightens the load for you to know what’s needed to get out and that it’s pissible. Then staying becomes your choice rather than holding on by finger nails hoping and feeling helpless.

I think that's fair, the effort needs to be both ways. If you have been communicating on the way you feel then he need to listen. If he doesn't listen and make effort then I don't see how you can save things. At least if you have communicated to him how you feel he can't say he was unaware of your unhappiness.

Well, good luck with that. Seriously, good luck.