Lack of Orgasms. Toys?

[Brewbees]

Not sure if to put this here or in Sex. Sorry if wrong place or TMI

My OH always used to give me many orgasms, and made sure I was satisfied every time we had sex (around 5 days a week). After satisfying me with fingers, oral we would have penetration.

Since he developed medical issues his stamina has lessened, he has joint pain everywhere including fingers s he cannot commit to pleasing me the way he did before. He cannot, erm, maintain an erection like he did before either.

He's more than willing to try toys, we've thought about buying some as a Christmas treat we think we'd like something "premium" though. Can you recommend some?

Go have a look on love honey together there's reviews for each thing.

I love my magic wand, it's powerful and I used to need powerful as I struggled to orgasm (now I don't since having a child - is that a thing?? )

I got it from lovehoney x

It's likely the medication causing many of his stamina and erection issues. He's taking Gabapentin at really high dosage.

Magic wand?! And there's so many toys on lovehoney! What are good brands to look at? Specific toy recommendations are great tbh, no idea what we are looking for, and rather not blind buy!

Everyone is different, lovehoney is good to look at because there are videos showing how the toys operate, reviews and forums to discuss.

If your oh wishes you could try a ring to help maintain his erection.

Various toys stimulate different areas of course and in different ways.

I'd actually say try cheaper ones to start with because it would be a shame to spend a lot of money on something that isn't for you. Eg rabbit style ones do absolutely nothing for me yet lots of people rave about them.

The various different types are available across a wide price range so start with basics and when you find a type that works you can get a more expensive/better version if you wish.

Plus it's not necessarily a case of more money = more pleasure.

Dietcoke: I am much much more in tune with myself since having kids, I know other woman that have said the same thing. Its like my body did what it was biologically programmed to do so I am much more receptive and enjoy sex much much more since I had kids.

Nice ;)

We have www.annsummers.com/sex-toys/sex-toys-shop-by-category/sex-toys-vibrators/moregasm-move-g-spot-vibrator/74675.html#start=5

It's brilliant. Mine is slightly different to this, as I got it when it first came out 2 years ago. But I expect it's the same still. I personally don't like the rabbits as they're a bit too rough.

Stuckfor - that looks a nice one, I agree the rabbit was just too much going on for me. Meaning ultimately my body just switched off.

I have:

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14152

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=31468

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=24632

The last is perfect for using with your partner it's very small and unobtrusive and you can use it during your play for an extra "something"

Lelo.... so so worth it

I second the magic wand. And can be used on both of you too!

Try this:

www.annsummers.com/sex-toys/sex-toys-shop-by-category/sex-toys-bullet-vibrators/climax-rechargeable-power-bullet/85198.html#start=3

It's not big or intimidating and will do the job his fingers used to do so he can use it on you and save his energy etc.

Third the magic wand (or doxy - same principle). Best thing I've invested in.