adultwork

[aftertheevent]

Ages ago I suspected h using this website and in the search for members....escorts.....a drop down came on with a previous search for weirdly "nice and kind"
I know I haven't typed this in. so the only person who could have is h.
So for some reason I brushed it aside but the full horror hit me today so when I got home I calmly asked him what he thought it was.
I stayed calm throughout but these are some of the things he said:
So you are looking at porn
Never heard of the website
You are being naïve or manipulative
If you think I'm bullying you call a helpline
You are creating chaos
How dare you not believe me and how dare you question me
Its something the computer made up
You must have typed it
I get angry when I am not believed
On and on and now hes not speaking to me and gone to bed playing the victim. He was storming about waving his finger at me. I just kept calm.
Previous is a porn addiction that he said he has got over and hes sick of me mentioning it. Well I don't. He also was saying I don't mention anything when you have a glass of wine. Whatever that means.
Bloody hell I only asked.

I’m sorry he’s hunting for sex [flowres]

is there any chance it wasn't what I think? Does the drop down only come from this site. I'm kidding myself

He’s looking to buy sex in some form. Maybe cam or prostitution

Anger is the biggest sign of guilt

Obviously not nice to be accused if he is innocent, but at the same time it's not looking good.

Problem now is as you've confronted him it will mean if he was guilty he will cover his tracks.

Well if the drop down hes been on then that's enough evidence.
He also said why are you asking? what do you want the end result to be?
What do you want me to say? Turning it on me as if I had made it all up.

A previous porn addict would have heard of this website surely. That's a downright lie.

Why do you stay?

Because I'm a naïve fool who thought things could get better.
The search for nice and kind is a kick in the teeth as he quite strangely thinks I'm not. Bloody hell hes a lunatic.
He also said I had to make the tea all week for asking him that question.
What on earth?

He cooks food and then manipulates. Saying he made the tea so I'm mean for asking him about it?

Wow. He's a man sized child.

He knows he's in the wrong because he reacting like a toddler having a tantrum and making up bullshit about what's going on. He's clearly not over his porn addiction, so it depends on how you want to handle it. If he's spending money on there that he shouldn't be, then you need to take that up with him. Check bank statements, although there are cash ways of adding credit on there that means it's untraceable.

The scary thing is the nice and kind search as if it was my fault what with being so nasty he just had to do it. Just downright stupid addict behaviour.
Better face up to it.
Not going to search and look.

He's not likely to change so you need to decide how you want to proceed. Give yourself time to think about what you want to do sweetheart.