Sibling help?

[greenhairybottle]

How much do you expect your siblings to support you through life's ups and downs?
We have just been attacked by dh's sisters and we are floored, we had no clue we were apparently so awful - we have genuinely tried our best to help but every gesture has been viewed as selfish, we are really hurt - dh especially, our parenting has been attacked, our diet- despite us cooking for ourselves! our approach to life.....we don't want to walk away but it's not looking good at the moment.

Sounds like projection to me. They're unhappy and its your fault...sad.

I think we are going to take a step back, dh will probably write a letter much along the lines that Caledonia has described. We have been through the constant complaints from her about her sister, husband and parents, so I suppose it's our turn to get the blame but we are handing it right back to her. Dh is furious, which is so unlike him - I think she was expecting him to be a doormat take all the criticism and apologise for every complaint levelled at us.....he's the strong silent type - I don't think she's seen the strong side of him in a long, long time.