Not really sure what to think hoping for some advice this is quite long. I have been married to my husband for 2 years. Prior to me he was engaged to a lady, but by all accounts it ended very badly after she constantly accused him of cheating. He left various items with her which he never collected. Fast forward 5 years to last Saturday 25th Nov. I’m sat in the car his business phone (we run our own) went off two message one saying hey CK the other saying I’m working in Bedfordshire on Monday to meet up. I knew straight away it was the ex the name is part of her surname I said nothing. Fast forward to this Saturday 2/12 his phones (he has 2) start ringing at 6am family numbers I run turn off phone. Check messages for VM and low and behold more messages some in a different language (my husbands not English) and one from Fri morning telling her he has just left how was she looking like. Then phone calls. I was so mad I never said anything. A few hours later in the car I confronted him he said it was a polish guy (who happens to speak his African language) possible but unlikely. He carried on saying this. I asked for his phone he had deleted everything every contact the messages and even the sat nav. So I asked again same story. I then said a lot of things including divorce. Fast forward to home I told him he had one week to leave he eventually told me it was his ex but he had only been in contact to get his stuff back...after 5 years and later I again discovered he hadn’t yet asked for his stuff. And under what pretence were they meeting he wouldn’t say. Finally I told him to ring her I’m sure he saved her number somewhere. And tell her he only wanted his stuff and he didn’t want contact (this was what he was telling me) he had a choice do that and help save the family. He refused. So he has gone I have removed all his stuff. He is not sorry he has shown no signs of remorse. So was he really just getting his stuff back or am I right and my husband is a lying cheating scumbag.
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