As if I wasn’t questioning my marriage enough right now, I found messages on my husbands work phone to a much younger colleague. (She’s never heard of Ghostbusters/Back to the future etc) While these were during work time they didn’t all concern work and there was definitely some ‘over friendly’ banter. He always initiates the chat and some of the things he’s written have made me think what a sad idiot he really is. I suspect she’s a graduate and has worked closely with him some months ago but he has never mentioned her as he has with the other graduates he’s worked with. He has a meeting with her this week and while discussing dates and times he added ‘it would be lovely to see you’. I’m lucky if he answers my work calls/texts yet he has plenty of time to be messaging someone half his age!! He has also been making more effort with the way he dresses at work....more trendy. He has no patience with me and our girls and his moods are up and down like a yo yo. I was going to talk to him later but finding these messages has only made me more determined to tell him how sh*t he makes me feel. Am I overreacting?