Dating - mental health

[StillGotTheTreeUp]

To keep it short,

Have met a chap online, due to meet very soon.

I have a historic eating disorder. I don't 'look' particularly ill atm but there are obvious signs. This year has been dreadful, worst ever re my problem, but I'm on the other side.

The guy I'm making works in mental health. He may be able to spot the signs quite easily.

Shall I mention this to him beforehand? I don't want him to think I'm after free therapy. Or him think I'm a project/patient.

Meeting*

You don't need to tell him anything until either you feel comfortable doing so or he asks and you think he deserves a true response. Working in mental health doesn't mean he'll be able to identify the symptoms of every mental health issue, particularly as he isn't going to be "on the look out" for them, so to speak. Personally, I'd not be sharing anything about my historic or current health or emotional status with anybody until we had seen each other several times and established we wanted to date properly / pursue something further.

Gently though - your health issues don't sound historical, and you need to look after yourself. Anything you say or do should be about your own comfort and reassurance, not that of anyone you go on a date with.

I agree with Comtesse but do take care, I think most of us who do online dating find it mentally tough.

Have you got someone in real life to support you with the online dating, lend a sympathetic ear etc?

Well I met him and I don't think he could tell.

Your right though, I'm kidding myself to class it as historical.

I enjoyed myself, he said he did too. I'll see what happens next. And yes, I've got my own MH person I can talk to about this.