Head or heart?

[Nowhere2turn]

So this is just a hypothetical question really.

In a relationship, making decisions about being with your partner or a new partner.... which do you listen to most? Your head or your heart?

I tend to go with head.... but the heart does make it difficult

I always use my heart because that's where I get all my feelings from, yeah my head can rationalise things but I always go with my gut/feelings

In my 20 year marriage, I'm not sure I listened to either! My head told me he was wrong and my heart certainly wasn't telling me it was right but I stuck it out for years, it's a mystery to me why, looking back.

In my new (15 month) relationship my heart told me he was the one for me but it was most inconvenient at the time we met. I did try and talk myself out of it for about a week and a half. In the end I decided I couldn't fight it and I'm so glad i did. It soon became clear that my head agreed with my heart 😀

Attractiveness, and Kindness. I'm not sure it's as simple as Head or Heart really.

Physical attractiveness is important to me. I have to fancy a man, has to be that spark. But if I sense or get to know he is unkind in speech and actions/attitude towards women, children, others etc then that renders him instantly unfanciable to me. It cancels everything out. Unkind people are dangerous, I don't go there.

So I guess Kindness is the main, and I don't know whether that falls under Head, or Heart.

Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Heart and head.