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I need help

9 replies

daddysgirls · 09/11/2017 09:00

I am a single father bringing up three teenage daughters since my wife died . My narcissistic ex partner is destroying me , what do I do ?

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Sugarpiehoneyeye · 09/11/2017 10:25

You need to elaborate !

hellsbellsmelons · 09/11/2017 10:48

What kind of things is she doing?
Without any details I would suggest calling 101 and talking to the police about it all. See what they advise.
Could you get a solicitor involved to write letters?
Get an injunction or a non-mol order in place.
Are you DC OK, does it affect them?
If so then SS might also be able to help.
But we do need more info.

Desmondo2016 · 09/11/2017 10:58

More information needed. Is she a partner from before your marriage or someone youve dated since your wife died? How are your children? What is the ex doing?

jeaux90 · 09/11/2017 11:30

If she is a narc you need to go no contact if you can. Is that possible?

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daddysgirls · 09/11/2017 22:28

Thank you all for replying , to cut a long and awful story short my ex cheated on me a few months ago and I have tried to forgive and rebuild our relationship but I just can’t and have finished our relationship . She has reacted by trying suicide and is now launching a vicious and nasty campaign to smear my name . I have kept up the no contact approach but am always aware that she is going to try everything to destroy me . My girls are worried and I’m completely alone as I devoted my life to her .

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Pinkpillows · 09/11/2017 22:34

She's got her own issues none of these are anything to do with you. Only she can deal with them, you've done the right thing no contact keep at it. Keep a record of everything that's happened and go to police if you got to, telling her to pack this in. Devote your life to your kids not a woman and you'll be fine

Disquieted1 · 09/11/2017 22:50

...she is going to try everything to destroy me.....

There are some horror stories out there and you need to protect yourself. A single unsubstantiated call to 911 can ruin your life.

  1. As a minimum document what's been happening in an email to some sort of authority figure. Do it tonight.
  2. Record and videotape everything.
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daddysgirls · 10/11/2017 08:17

I just feel so hopelessly alone with it all , I hoped we could move on together and build a new life but it’s turned into the worst nightmare , why does she blame me for everything ? I wasn’t the one that cheated

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jeaux90 · 10/11/2017 11:23

I would put a call in with the police if she is harassing you. And absolutely stay no contact. Your girls need you focussed on them

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