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Things that shouldn't annoy you but do

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operaha · 22/10/2017 12:57

I was having a v serious chat with a friend who's pregnant and her partner is being a bit shit and whilst I'm very sympathetic I'm also a long way past the baby stage (by two decades) and find it hard to relate.

Anyway got me thinking about what irritates me about my husband and the issues are so different but drive me crazy!
He made us late to our niece's birthday party last night because he spent so long fixing the bathroom door.

He takes way too long over his personal hygiene.

He won't let me near the washing, that's all his department.
He can't relax so always has to have diy to do.

What are your irrational annoyances?

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operaha · 22/10/2017 13:04

This conversation with my sister led to her admitting she was cross with her partner that he spent an hour cleaning the living room.
I dread to think what my husband's ones about me are!

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IamPickleRick · 22/10/2017 13:10

People who cannot park easily.
People who cannot navigate, read maps or even remember journeys they have done hundreds of times.
My DM leaves the butter and the milk out to go off, then gets pissed off at you for suggesting it might have gone bad in the 12 hours its been sat on the side in the sunshine.
People who are slow to get ready. DP will just have to put his shoes on and close the front door but I once timed him and it took 12 minutes while I waited in the car.
People who are instantly prickly when you speak to them.

The map reading and parking I have some sympathy for as I find those things easy so I understand not everyone does. The rest is just dick-ish.

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operaha · 22/10/2017 13:17

Oooh driving. My husband's driving irritates the shit out of me!!! But, I can't do motorways anymore (panic attacks) so rely on him massively if we go away so have to slag him off in my head

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TammyswansonTwo · 22/10/2017 13:19

Really? Angry because they spend too long cleaning and won't let you do laundry?! Be prepared for a flaming 😂

Annoyed5678 · 22/10/2017 13:19

People crunching food really loud, picking their nails, saying they'll phone you or meet up with you at X time but arrive 20 mins late no apology, i could go on

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operaha · 22/10/2017 13:23

Tammy - i was trying to be light hearted. I do have very real shit going on in my life, as does my sister, very very real but we were laughing about the stuff that shouldn't annoy us but does, which in the grand scheme of things makes us chuckle - perhaps our sense of humour is different to yours but I know with my family and friends we can say this stuff.

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operaha · 22/10/2017 13:24

Right now - need to leave the house in 6 minutes, husband's just making a coffee. We'll be late.

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user1497997754 · 22/10/2017 13:24

Everything and everybody.....I am going through the menopause so could be down to that .....I used to be very laid back but now am like a different person....

Pithivier · 22/10/2017 14:01

The inability to answer yes or no to a questio, or answer a question. With another unnecessary one.
Do you want a drink?
Are you having one?

What time do you want to leave?
What do you think?

Do I need to get petrol on the way
Well I did drive to my Mother's Yesterday and did a few errands.

TheNaze73 · 22/10/2017 14:35

Families that walk five abreast in town centres holding hands.

Twee & bloody annoying.

Also those twats that decide to start conversation in shop doorways.

Hairgician · 22/10/2017 16:29

My dp was obviously born in a fucking field. He doesn't understand the concept of closing doors. Always leaves cupboard doors open in kitchen. And leaves front door or car door wide open in the winter - fucking close it over and keep the heat in!Angry
And he uses every cup and spoon in the house rather than just rinse the ones hes used.

Hairgician · 22/10/2017 16:30

*He goes out to do something and leaves car/front door open. I don't mean he opens them and doesn't come back. But still.

Shopkinsdoll · 22/10/2017 16:35

I get annoyed very easy, i have learned to just bite my tongue. Can't stand people eating loudly, I get the rage. Silly names people call their children. People trying to be posh.

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whatsavings · 22/10/2017 18:37

The inability to answer yes or no to a questio, or answer a question. With another unnecessary one.

Oh God yes!
What do you want for tea?
Don't know, what do YOU want?

Do you want to go out?
Don't know, where do YOU want to go?

What do you want to watch on TV?
Don't know, do YOU want to watch something?

It's so predictable. It gives me the absolute rage.
I did tell him that this passivity was an issue.
He said "What do YOU think we should do about it...?"

ALittleMoreEducation · 22/10/2017 19:43

He takes way too long over his personal hygiene.
He won't let me near the washing, that's all his department.
He can't relax so always has to have diy to do.

OP Do I know you? this sounds exactly like my best friend's father.

Maybe not - but to let you know he had a late life diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome.

Annoyed5678 · 22/10/2017 22:59

People who whistle walking around supermarket or in ques drives me fucking mad

ALittleMoreEducation · 22/10/2017 23:07

People who whistle

Someone once told me that people who whistle never whistle when they are alone/can't be overheard by someone/something.

He had a whole "psychological disorder" theory about whistling.

I don't know if it is true but sounded interesting. I want it to be true.

Emilybrontescorsett · 22/10/2017 23:08

I get the not answering a question.
My mother went through a spell of not answering me if I asked bet if she would me a drink.
I took it as a no and amazingly she answers me now!
I get asked the same question over and over again, I've started to answer it no more than 3 times now, after that I reply the answer is the same as it was the last time you asked me and the time before that and the time before that.
Groups of people who stand at the top of an escalator together, blocking the exit or entry. Why oh why?

Hairgician · 22/10/2017 23:16

The way dp cuts onions. It's all wrong.

People who stop dead in front of you when out and about.

People who wait til they are at the checkout and paying for the shopping before rummaging in their purse for their fucking 100s of money off coupons. Gives me the rageAngry

ShotsFired · 22/10/2017 23:42

Telling me that yes he is "ready to leave". When in actual fact he needs to fanny about with shoes, coat, make tea, find car key etc.

He always turns the washing up bowl on its side rather than just leave it in the sink. This drives me utterly insane, for various reasons.

ShotsFired · 22/10/2017 23:46

And YES YES YES to @Pithivier's answering a question with a question. Why?! Angry

And his habit of asking me a direct question, but the second I start to respond, saying "hang on" and pausing me mid-word. Fucking don't ask me questions if you are busy concentrating on something else you enormous twat!

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operaha · 23/10/2017 10:02

Alittlemoreeducation -

It has crossed my mind. I doubt we know each other - his children are only 13 and 16. But yes, he has traits I wonder if will eventually lead him to discover he does have aspergers or similar but thats another thread!!

I have realised after 5 years, if I need him to be somewhere at a certain time, I just need to add half an hour on. Sorted.

Slow walkers!! I am such a fast walker, DH is 6'4 and I am over a foot shorter so I have learnt to walk fast over the years!!

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Vari757 · 23/10/2017 11:06

My DP will take a multipack bag of crisps out the cupboard, take one packet out then not put the multibag back in the cupboard.

He also "doesnt see the point" in making the bed...

MotherOfDragons22 · 23/10/2017 11:14

It doesn't matter how many times i have told dp not to, he keeps asking me every night "what im planning to do about dinner?" Whats wrong with me just getting up and sorting it when im ready and not be asked about it from lunchtime onwards?! It has negative connotations for me which i have tried to explain (a boyfriend of my mom used to kick off if his dinner wasnt on the table when he got home) but still he does it?!