DH has anger issues

[hazbaz]

Please help me, I can't think straight. I've just got home from a night out to have my 6 yo tell me (when I woke him for a wee) that his dad punched a hole in the wall because DS "accidentally" threw a sock at him. He has never hit me but he does have anger issues, we have 2 boys. I have to make him do something don't i? This is not what normal people do is it?!

No it isnt.

He frightened your bairn. You know what to do.

She's right. You know what to do. Children come first.

He doesn't have anger issues, he is abusive. What you have described is abuse.

No it's not what normal people do. You know that.

I would think if he can punch a hole in a wall in response to a flying sock then none of you are safe there. Sorry.

Oh god, I'm so scared I feel sick. I keep pretending to everyone that everything is ok & I feel so stupid & alone

Ok. Try not to freak out, I know that sounds impossible. You can make a plan, you CAN get out of this.

What could your first step be?
Do you own/rent?
Are you married?
Do you have supportive friends or family nearby?
Does he?

I'm going to see my mum on Fri, she lives 200 miles away, for some of half term so I get some headspace.

He's not British so no family nearby.