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Giving up

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ChristinaParsons · 09/10/2017 22:14

Married for 18 years. He left for OW he had known for 3 weeks. I was distraught. Had a breakdown. 2 years on met someone through a mutual friend. Thought I would never trust again, love again, be happy again. I did. He made me feel amazing but now he needs space and time. I think I'm done with relationships

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beesandknees · 09/10/2017 22:22

Handhold for you.

It's fine to give up. And it's fine to change your mind if you decide you don't want to give up anymore. And it's fine to give up forever and just do your own thing.

You don't have to have a romance in order to be a whole, worthwhile person.

I know none of those facts makes the pain feel easier in the moment, though.

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ChristinaParsons · 09/10/2017 22:27

They are very kind words

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userxx · 09/10/2017 22:48

And again you will be happy. You know you can fall in love and feel all those feelings again. Give yourself time.

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ChristinaParsons · 09/10/2017 23:24

I never expected to trust again. But it was misplaced. Without trust you cannot love.

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