Asking questions - odd or nice?

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I know there have been a few threads about this recently but am interested in views on this one - someone that you are not in a relationship with always asking questions about things in your past/your stories.

Examples from the past week include:

• I mentioned I saw an ex. They ask - which one was that? What happened?
• I allude to something that happened years ago in passing and they say - that sounds like I story I haven't heard
• Someone makes a comment on FB about a party I attended, I then get a message - what happened at the party? Were there any hookups? Then when told no, asking - I feel like there's something you're holding back from me.

There are more but these are just the most recent. Red flag/odd or just nice interest?

Odd, I'd have responded 'what's it got to do with you exactly?' by now, and probably moved on. Nothing to see here.

If it makes you uncomfortable it’s a red flag.

Is this someone who could potentially be a partner rather than will always be a friend? Eg for me a female friend asking this would just be nosy. A bloke who I suspected was interested would be more than nosy and into intrusive

It's a bloke!

It's just odd is all. I'm not used to getting these sort of questions.

It depends on the context. If it's a man that you are interested in, but who hasn't asked you out - are you maybe reading things into his questions that you hope might be an expression of interest? Sometimes people just ask questions for something to say.

My kids use 'that sounds like a story we haven't heard' in a sarcastic way, when someone is repeating themselves or saying something they aren't interested in, so be careful.

If it's a man that you are interested in, but who hasn't asked you out - are you maybe reading things into his questions that you hope might be an expression of interest?

Ha - perhaps!

Asking which ex might be simply showing interest in you /the conversation and I'd consider that a normal comment. The bit about the party though, that's just odd. What's it got to do with him? If you are holding something back, you're perfectly entitled to do so and pressing you on it is just intrusive. I'd be stepping back from whatever kind of friend/relationship this is.

I feel like there's something you're holding back from me.

The rest might just be a slightly awkward attempt to make conversation but this is weird - what are they accusing you of?