Engage with narc Ex or is it utterly pointless?

[donners312]

I personally think it is pointless?

But his GF/OW is on the case saying we should all meet and discuss what he should do for the DC (he left us homeless emptied bank accounts etc and won't pay maintenance)

My DB says if i keep ignoring them i will get nowhere and perhaps an meeting will sort things out. I am not convinced!!

A meeting has been discussed with all 4 of us, if he doesn't do what he says my brother and his GF/OW might see him for what he is and if he does suddenly pay maintenance/provide housing then good for me.

or a waste of time and backfoot via engagement???

Why is it any of the GF/OW's business? Is she trying to control what he is /isn't paying you? There is no need for her to be there. Whatsbout legal advice? Do they know your brother will be there?
I would worry that the two of them were manipulating you even with your. Either there to support you.
I wouldn't do it.
Sounds a mare. Hope you work it out.

Hi donners sounds a bit suspect to me - what's your gut saying - have u had any contact with OW before - has x recently kept to anything he'd said he'd do - maybe ask them to put something in writing about what they want to discuss _ see whether they do this willingly or become defensive -

Been with a narc. He paid some maintenance for about 6 months out of 8 years to impress his new squeeze then zip.

Up to you of course but just be prepared for whatever is agreed on to be backed down on later. He'll be paying lip service or acting, but you know that.

I'm no contact with my ex now. I wouldn't meet him no. Don't want to be anywhere near the hollow shell of this malevolent being.