Marriage counselling how did you find it?

[BreakingDad77]

We have one DC 3 married 5 plus about 5 before, things just not working, just wondered about others experience? No others involved, I'm not happy about the debt and broken promises to fix it. She goes out with friends, we seem to drowning in clothes, washing only gets done by me at weekends, unless she has no workclothes. Only does chores if her friends coming around. I generally get dc ready in morning and do dinner and bedtime. Most evenings she just goes off to friends.

Sorry forgot to expand she goes out with friends drinking at most opportunitiea and then tells me she stressed about money. Bit not made any attempt to pay any of the credit card off.

Sounds like she's not engaging in family life. Does she want to go to counselling with you? Have you sat down and discussed it with her. Having debt hanging over your head is very stressful, but doesn't seem like it's the main problem?

She doesn't seem that bothered about counselling but she also has kind of cryptic not sure if she wants to be together any more.