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Am I overthinking everything please help!!

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Indiasmith · 27/07/2017 23:23

So I've been seeing this guy for 2 months I wouldn't say we are dating it's all very casual, I always go to his house and have been about 5 times always on weekend due to different work schedules. A couple of weeks ago he fell out with me because he thought I'd stayed out all night when I didn't reply which we sorted out, then he fell asleep when I was due to go to his place resulting in me not going obviously I wasn't happy and told him this and everything was fine after until the Monday after he didn't text me in the morning as he usually did and hasn't been texting me as often as he used to, should I be worried or am I overreacting?
I've never spoken to anyone for as long as this before as I've never been in a relationship so this is all really confusing, any help will be much appreciated.

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Bant · 27/07/2017 23:45

Are you happy? Does this make you happy? The whole thing, I mean?

If not, you shouldn't continue it. It seems lazy and slow on his part, and anxious on yours. It doesn't sound fun. Two months in, a relationship should be fun

thestamp · 28/07/2017 00:29

Wait he got angry with you because he thought you stayed out all night?

Why are you still seeing this person?

scoobydoo1971 · 28/07/2017 00:35

Too much worry, too soon. Dating is supposed to be fun!!! Are you just going to his house for 'dates' because that is not a good sign...that is FWB not building a relationship.

His anger should be a red flag. You need a conversation with yourself...how do you see your future with this man? If you don't see it in a positive light, run now.

scoobydoo1971 · 28/07/2017 00:40

Too much worry, too soon. Dating is supposed to be fun!!! Are you just going to his house for 'dates' because that is not a good sign...that is FWB not building a relationship.

His anger should be a red flag. You need a conversation with yourself...how do you see your future with this man? If you don't see it in a positive light, run now.

Cricrichan · 28/07/2017 00:49

Run! You do not want to bewitgthis man. Already so many problems and not speaking to you because you didn't answer your phone and he's already not trusting you? Unless you want to end up with a controlling and abusive man, run.

Aquamarine1029 · 28/07/2017 01:25

This relationship is over before it began. He gets mad because you stayed out all night? Who the fuck does he think he is?? Why would you even entertain this level of controlling behaviour for ONE SECOND? Run like hell and don't look back.

category12 · 28/07/2017 05:54

Why are you going to his house every time?

What happened to going out and getting to know each other?

CosmicPineapple · 28/07/2017 06:13

The hills are that way >>>>>>>>
Run for them.

Shoxfordian · 28/07/2017 06:50

It seems like more of a fuckbuddy situation than a relationship

TheNaze73 · 28/07/2017 07:20

This doesn't sound good. Getting angry as he thought you were out, is a massive red flag.

I'd get out now, from what you've said he sounds like a possesive fuck buddy, you're better than that

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